Comments on: The Benefits of Premarital Counseling http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling Personal Finance for Life in the Kingdom Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:59:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Paul Williams http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/#comment-15814 Paul Williams Tue, 20 Sep 2011 18:51:48 +0000 http://www.providentplan.com/?p=719#comment-15814 Ours was six sessions over approximately 6 or 7 months, but I think most are probably only one or two sessions. We had six because that's what the book we used breaks it up into. Ours was six sessions over approximately 6 or 7 months, but I think most are probably only one or two sessions. We had six because that’s what the book we used breaks it up into.

]]> By: K2 http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/#comment-15813 K2 Tue, 20 Sep 2011 18:30:33 +0000 http://www.providentplan.com/?p=719#comment-15813 how long did your premarital counseling last. how long did your premarital counseling last.

]]> By: Bose http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/#comment-15600 Bose Tue, 28 Jun 2011 11:38:25 +0000 http://www.providentplan.com/?p=719#comment-15600 Premarital counsel can save ur marriage before it starts. We did not have any premarital counsel , it took the grace of God for our marriage to survive the storms! Now i know better, and counsel others. Premarital counsel can save ur marriage before it starts. We did not have any premarital counsel , it took the grace of God for our marriage to survive the storms! Now i know better, and counsel others.

]]> By: Paul Williams http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/#comment-15456 Paul Williams Fri, 25 Mar 2011 20:00:41 +0000 http://www.providentplan.com/?p=719#comment-15456 Hi, JD. I can't speak for other pastors, but I know I wouldn't refuse to counsel/marry a couple who had sex before marriage unless they remain unrepentant. (I'd still counsel them, but I'd have a hard time marrying them if they saw no problem with sex before marriage.) It should be something that comes up in premarital counseling but it might not. And obviously you wouldn't be forced to share about it, but you'll get the most out of premarital counseling if you're completely honest and open. Blessings to you and your fiancée. Hi, JD. I can’t speak for other pastors, but I know I wouldn’t refuse to counsel/marry a couple who had sex before marriage unless they remain unrepentant. (I’d still counsel them, but I’d have a hard time marrying them if they saw no problem with sex before marriage.) It should be something that comes up in premarital counseling but it might not. And obviously you wouldn’t be forced to share about it, but you’ll get the most out of premarital counseling if you’re completely honest and open. Blessings to you and your fiancée.

]]> By: JD http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/#comment-15455 JD Thu, 24 Mar 2011 22:00:12 +0000 http://www.providentplan.com/?p=719#comment-15455 Paul, my fiancée and I are getting married in July. We have been together for a little over 5 years. We are both believers of Jesus and are planning on doing premarital counseling. However, we have had sex before (only between us two, no other previous partner). How would this affect the counseling session? Will pastors still perform premarital counseling and marry a couple who have had sex before marriage? Paul, my fiancée and I are getting married in July. We have been together for a little over 5 years. We are both believers of Jesus and are planning on doing premarital counseling. However, we have had sex before (only between us two, no other previous partner). How would this affect the counseling session? Will pastors still perform premarital counseling and marry a couple who have had sex before marriage?

]]> By: Paul Williams http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/#comment-15349 Paul Williams Fri, 11 Feb 2011 19:42:02 +0000 http://www.providentplan.com/?p=719#comment-15349 Hi, Dani. The time frame for premarital counseling will depend on whom you use for the counseling. Many ministers/counselors only have one session. Others may do two or three. And the one we used took six sessions (based on the book we used). It's definitely a valuable thing to do before marriage, especially if things are coming up now that you did not expect (like the separate bank accounts). As far as separate bank accounts go, I personally prefer to have our finances joint (mine and my wife's). But I know of many people who separate their finances and split the bills (evenly or by a formula based on their income, which is pretty much joint finances if you ask me). They seem to do fine <strong><em>as long as</em></strong> they maintain very good communication and expectations and they're both OK with it. It certainly sounds like something you should explore more with your fiance. Hi, Dani. The time frame for premarital counseling will depend on whom you use for the counseling. Many ministers/counselors only have one session. Others may do two or three. And the one we used took six sessions (based on the book we used). It’s definitely a valuable thing to do before marriage, especially if things are coming up now that you did not expect (like the separate bank accounts).

As far as separate bank accounts go, I personally prefer to have our finances joint (mine and my wife’s). But I know of many people who separate their finances and split the bills (evenly or by a formula based on their income, which is pretty much joint finances if you ask me). They seem to do fine as long as they maintain very good communication and expectations and they’re both OK with it. It certainly sounds like something you should explore more with your fiance.

]]> By: dani http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/#comment-15346 dani Fri, 11 Feb 2011 04:36:14 +0000 http://www.providentplan.com/?p=719#comment-15346 My fiance and I just recently got engaged and are planning a small wedding at the end of April. Someone told me that that is to soon to get married and that we need time to seek out premarital counseling. I understand the benefits of premarital counseling and we are going to do it, but is there a time frame for such a thing? Also, the other day finances got brought up between him and I and he mentioned that we would have separate bank accounts, rather than a joint account. This was really hard for me to hear. May I get your thought on whether it matters? Thanks so much, this article was very helpful! My fiance and I just recently got engaged and are planning a small wedding at the end of April. Someone told me that that is to soon to get married and that we need time to seek out premarital counseling. I understand the benefits of premarital counseling and we are going to do it, but is there a time frame for such a thing? Also, the other day finances got brought up between him and I and he mentioned that we would have separate bank accounts, rather than a joint account. This was really hard for me to hear. May I get your thought on whether it matters? Thanks so much, this article was very helpful!

]]> By: Paul Williams http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/#comment-13604 Paul Williams Mon, 03 Jan 2011 17:19:50 +0000 http://www.providentplan.com/?p=719#comment-13604 Nope, I don't mind at all, KB. I'm glad you found it helpful. Just be sure it's properly cited. Everything here is indexed by Google and it would be easy for your teacher to check for plagiarism. Wouldn't want you to get in trouble for that! Nope, I don’t mind at all, KB. I’m glad you found it helpful. Just be sure it’s properly cited. Everything here is indexed by Google and it would be easy for your teacher to check for plagiarism. Wouldn’t want you to get in trouble for that!

]]> By: KB http://www.providentplan.com/719/the-benefits-of-premarital-counseling/#comment-13601 KB Mon, 03 Jan 2011 16:09:27 +0000 http://www.providentplan.com/?p=719#comment-13601 I'm doing a research paper for a high school project on marriage, and I'm doing a section on the benefits of premarital counseling. This perspective was really helpful, and I hope you don't mind you were quoted. I appreciated the Christian perspective, so thanks. I’m doing a research paper for a high school project on marriage, and I’m doing a section on the benefits of premarital counseling. This perspective was really helpful, and I hope you don’t mind you were quoted. I appreciated the Christian perspective, so thanks.

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